ppl who speak less, or ppl who dont speak unnecessarily?

since we were born, we have had so many relationships... Be it with our parents, our relatives, uncles, aunts, cousins, or the frnds that we make all through our lives, we have always seen relationships around us..we can very well say that these relationships make us the persons that we are, define the way v behave...but we cant really say that each relationship is perfect...there are some people who feel closer to their family rather than frnds, and there are some who are able to open up to their frnds more...i.e. we all tend to depend on someone on a day-to day basis....

and then there are some who feel content with themselves, people who prefer to keep their thoughts to themselves, ppl who prefer to communicate with themselves, analyse people, their behaviour, the situation around them..who speak only wn they think is the right time, they dont unnecessarily blabber...we call them "introverts"...

we tend to categorise them as boring, as people having an "attitude", but what we ignore or fail to see is that they are one of the most intelligent people, people who dont need anybody else in their lives to make it beautiful (unlike us)....for them, life is beautiful, and contradictory to wt we think, they can talk abt many many things, infact anything under the sky, and have an opinion on almost every topic...u just need to be their good frnd to know wt a gem of a person they r.....

one plus point is that introverts r gr8 listeners, they will listen to every problem of urs, and their silence itself can give u a lot of support....they know wn to speak, wt to speak, and have a whole of lot of stuff going on inside their minds....this makes them superior to ppl who speak unnecessarily, say the wrong things at the wrong time....

they can be good observers, really smart, and no-nonsense kind of ppl....though im not generalising this topic (all this is through my personal experience as a frnd) wts important to notice is that, we should never jump to any conclusions just bcoz ppl r not the way v r or the way v expect them to be....(excessively talking and doing bakwaas)...introverts can make excellent frnds, listen to us (bcoz as v know, ppl who talk more, listen less) and can give us really good advice...

but having said that, im not saying relationships are not important for them..infact they r the most loyal frnds, will always help u when needed, and can be very good with secrets....u can depend on them without any worries...

but finally, the most beautiful thing abt them is that unlike us, they dont need any person for support, they dont crib about life the way v do....r happy with life... bcoz afterall, the most important thing in life is happiness, and this is where v can learn a thing or two from them...

one of those strange feelings..

today, my morning started as usual with me waking up at 10...i had a feeling that i wouldnt b having college...had heard so much abt the blasts, that i had assumed that there wud b a total bandh in mumbai..but, i was wrong and was forced to get out of the bed and get ready for college....and when i was all set to get out of my house, i didnt have any feeling of a fear as to wt would happen during the day..

anyway, i finished my work, enjoyed with my frnds in the canteen and then decided to go back home...but, just as we were abt to leave, we got the news that firing has started at cst station, and needless to say v wer a bit tensed..could definitely not call it fear though...

all the professors and students started getting out of college, and it was high time that evn v went home...all along, i was constantly in touch with my dad, with whom i was gonna go home....and my frnds wer with me throughout....v waited for the train, which as usual was late, and as was expected, not  evn a single train showed up for 20 minutes, so we thought bus is the next best option...or a rickshaw....finally, got into one(which was jam-packed) and ppl wer sumhow waiting to get home...i could see sum worried faces, ppl talking to their relatives on phone, some ppl discussing abt the taj and oberoi, some adding to the topic of conversation(with wtever they knew)....i could start feeling tension arnd....and just wn i was talking to my dad, one of my frnds told me tht his father was in cst, where everyone was insde a bldng..1 little flicker of tension....."hope his dad is ok"....and one more frnd's dad was in colaba....the very place where yesterday al the action was hapng...

just wn u hear tht  sum1 is in trouble, u tend to make tht person feel "everything will b over, its ok...." but its wn the same tragedy affects us, that we realise how serious and dangerous it is..v always tell ppl to b "optimistic"...but can v be optimistic wn sumthing bad hapns to us?wn sum tragedy strikes us, and we r expected to b ok and optimistic? 

i know i didnt feel any kind of a fear the entire day, but iam now sure what fear would actually mean....and i wish i dont ever get to feel it....

one more tragedy.....

its really sad that 26th november,2008 is considered as india's own 9/11...so many ppl have lost their lives, and the numbers r just increasing every time u switch on the news channels....so many police officers r killed, so many brave commandos have lost their lives just bcoz they wer concerned abt the ppl stuck inside taj and oberoi hotels...v have lost sum of our best officers, and still more lives r at stake.....110 ppl killed, countless injured, this is one of the worst days of mumbai, and a time wn v all can come together and help each other, show the true spirit of mumbai...

life as we all can understand now, is not the same anymore...u never know wt might hapn the next minute, wt tragedy might struck us, wt problem might arise, everything has bcum too unpredictable...wt we have is just this one moment, to live our life the way v want to, to show our luved ones wt they mean to us, to just do things that we want to....

sum ppl get sum kind of an indication that they sumthing is going to hapn to them, sum kind of a signal from god...although we might think its all too dramatic, it does hapn...the way old ppl get the feeling that sumthing is going to hapn to them...call it a miracle, a msg from god, or anything tht u like, it does hapn....

but, life doesnt always give a signal to everyone...life is too short for grudges, fights and misunderstandings...call up an old frnd, solve a fight with sumone, talk to ur parents, tell ur frnds how important they r to u....go out for a long walk with the perons u luv, bcoz it is possible that this moment might never come...y wait for things to happen?make them happen...enjoy life rt now, ....

lets pray for the ppl who have lost their lives, and wait for this tragedy to get over.....

bcoz as they say,every dark cloud has a silver lining....

 

the big day

my bday.....im 20 today....the calls started from 11.45.....as usual i was expecting calls from frnds, and was wishing tht everybody would call..i will obviously feel bad if all the people who were supposed to call didnt call, and ppl from whom i didnt expect to get a call(simply bcoz i thought they wouldnt remember) called....never the less, i felt gud wn my frnds called, and felt especially good wn my mom, dad and sister wished me....the day has just started...its 8.20 am and i have the whole day ahead of me...wt will i do now?hmmmmm..lets c....i have my college...got to meet my frnds, and have loads of fun...but what im really waiting for is 5pm....im going to have the best bday today at 5pm...its going to b gr8888...

.talking of bdays reminds me of my childhood, wn just the sight of a cake was enough to make me feeel gr8..buying new clothes, calling frnds over, expecting gifts....well, i would say im the same even today...hehe...afterall, what's a bday w/o a cake or a brand new dress?

and how can i forget my wish for the year...well, ppl might say happiness, peace, love and all tht...but i already have them :) so i would say my wish for the yr would be a time machine....actually tht has been my wish since a very long time...i would luv to go back to my 
childhood, or go ahead and c wt hapns in the future...though the only thing i would want to change would be to do something so tht time stays still....and i guess the only thing which wud make tht possible would be a time machine...i want to relive my 20 yrs...c, experience, and do all the things...go to my old bldng, my old school, my frnds...(most of whom r now busy with their 
respective lives...) tell them how important they r to me, my crushes ;)...play with my frnds, go out with my parents to the same old places as a kid, irritate my sister, see the same old professors....my old grp, many of my frnds with whom im no more in touch...(for which i have no 
explanation)..

however life was, and however life is gonna b, im too happy rt now, and hope i stay like this my 
entire life....and i  thank god for giving me everything....
happy bday meenakshi...

a day trying to study for snap...

now almost everyone would b knowing abt snap...symbiosis national aptitude test....and i guess just 1 month sounds a bit difficult to prepare for an exam which has so many ppl trying to gain admission in one of the most reputed colleges...but i learned today tht infact if u really try hard, it is possible to crack just abt anything....and this is just the thing whihc keeps me going rt now...bcoz i guess 1 month though a small time can make a lot of difference in the way u utilise ur time....
so the day was spent trying to solve sums which seemed really irritating in the start, but made sense later...and now i actually find them interesting..so i guess its just abt the way u make things for urself...evn the most boring thing can b made interesting if u really want to....
the same thing applies to life as well..we might find sum things really unnecessary and think
"y am i doing this?"...but just look at them from a positive frame of mind...and it will be done happily...after all, its better to do things with all ur heart rather than doing them half-heartedly....
thought this was just abt some stupid sums, these r the samll things which really help us handle evn the most boring things, which we wud otherwise ignore...so im busy preparing for snap, trying to solve some problems which have now bcum really interesting for me...lets c wt hapns....though this wud just b my first try at sumthing so big, it will atleast help me in knowing where meenakshi stands, and if just 1 month can help her achieve sumthing....b it an admission to symbiosis, or just the a better ability to solve problems....:)

bday party

wn we hear the word party, the things tht cum to our mind today are....booze, loud music, sum kind of a club or pub, disco,etc, etc..and ofcourse lots and lots of money..but how many of us can forget the way parties wer organised yrs back?wn a party was a reason to get together with family, frnds,relatives...just to c a smile on the faces of our luved ones....
today the essence of a party is lost. ppl give parties to flaunt their money, power, and status...its abt calling as many ppl as possible...going to a hi-fi restaurant...having the best food, and doing things to basically please others. how many of us give a party just bczo we really want to?everyone is just becoming a part of the crowd 2day...its all bcum like a trend...u r forced to give a party evn if u dont feel like giving one...
how many of us give a treat to our parents?the same ppl who have made us wt we r today, the same ppl who bought us a cake wn we wer busy planning for our bdays, and forgot to evn thank them for all their support. who got us the best gifts, who invited our frnds on our behalf, who made sure every guest was served and everyone had the best time....
bdays today, or any party for tht matter have changed the way v look at things...its all materialistic..yrs back the best gift for us was a pencil, pen,a scale, anything tht our frnds got for us...we had such gr8 fun in just looking at the huge heap of gift boxes...out nights wud b spent looking at them, and feeling happy abt the day gone by, but today its abt frnds competing on giving the best gift, so tht we can show the bday guy/gal tht we r indeed giving then sumthing which equals the money they have spent on us...we live in such a materialistic world, tht v forget to think abt the small things in life...
learn to just b urself, do things only wn u really want to, appreciate ppl arnd u, value all those who r dear to u, or it might b too late..bcoz years pass by without us evn knowing abt it...learn to sumtimes bring back the child in u....
go and give a party to ur frnds at the near by thela.....stylishly give a pani puri treat to ur frnds, without caring abt their reactions....if they really r ur frnds, they will b too happy to share the puris with u
and finally, for a change, in the middle of the night cut a cake on ur bday, and this time share it with ur parents, rather than being on the phone with ur frnds....

fashion world

just saw the movie fashion the day b4.....
the fashion world is so full of colour,glamour,style,fame...with so much of money at stake....we are besotted by the image tht the media has created arnd it..but the real story is untold..sum films like fashion try to bring to life the real story, but still many things r left unsaid and unexplained....but still this seems to b a gud step towards reality movies..not just running arnd the trees and romantic songs...today we get to c so many movies which show much more than just glycerine and tears...but having said, i dont really agree with everythign tht was shown in fashion. specially the fact tht to b successful u need to make compromises, and also the fact tht every designer and possibly every guy remotely related to the fashion industry is gay..i think it was just hyped, and i dont think every guy has to b gay to b a part of the industry....making it generalised is not a gud idea..anyways it was just a movie and v shud really appreciate madhur bhandarkar for attempting sumthing which other film makers can only imagine....